Nov. 18th, 2016 10:25 am
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Well, I went out on a meet-and-greet date with Eric, the guy who stood me up a couple months ago.

Gods, he's young. As in, half my age, young. I just don't know. He's nice and very smart and I enjoyed my time with him. He's an introvert who talks a mile a minute, I'm sure partly out of insecurity. He's still in graduate school, with an English Lit major, interests in Philosophy and Science and is musical.

He's very much in earnest about dating an older I'm just not sure that I want to. We're at such different points in our lives that I'm just not sure there's any frame of reference.

Not to mention that there's not any financial stability. I really *need* financial stability. He hasn't really had any sort of steady job or anything like a career...has always been in school, or at least that's what it sounds like. I can only imagine what his school loans are like, unless Mom and Dad pay for it.

So we'll see. But I'm not really very hopeful about it. I need an adult, not a kid to raise.

Date: 2016-11-18 06:55 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Hooray for an ego boost! :-)

Date: 2016-11-18 07:43 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Yeah, thanks.

But when I think about introducing him to my friends, I cringe. That tells me a lot.

I vote YES!

Date: 2016-11-18 10:13 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
So don't introduce him to your friends. There's no law that says you have to.
Why don't you just enjoy it for the temporary fling that it is?
Besides he's company for you and by the sound of it, intelligent company.
There's no reason why you can't date him until someone more your own age shows up.

Re: I vote YES!

Date: 2016-11-19 12:31 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I'm just having trouble wrapping my head around dating someone half my age. I just can't take him seriously; it's a bit like dating a puppy. I adore puppies but I don't want to date one. When he texts me on FB, I find myself looking for excuses to go away. That's just not good.

Re: I vote YES!

Date: 2016-11-19 05:11 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
So he's a guilty pleasure.
Me thinks the Universe is sending you a message.
Perhaps you need to listen.

Re: I vote YES!

Date: 2016-11-19 07:00 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I have to go with my gut feelings here, which say no.

Any time I ignore them, it's a bad outcome.

Re: I vote YES!

Date: 2016-11-19 11:23 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
I was hoping he might inspire you to have a bit more positive outlook on life and that is definitely something I haven't noticed any of the others you've dated in the past couple of years doing. All of them seem to have been losers and Davie Downer's.
If dating him is really giving you the willies though, I reckon you are right to break it off.
Mind if I ask you a question though--
Has he ever tried to get "romantic" with you? Or is something else coming to mind where's he's concerned?
Gut feelings are usually based on "something" and it might be a good idea to figure that out.

Re: I vote YES!

Date: 2016-11-20 04:54 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
We're just on totally different trajectories in life. He hasn't ever had a serious job, just something to make money while he's in school while I'm looking at 35 years of a sewing business; just not sure we can relate. Plus he's not at all financially stable. I don't mind going dutch but I really want to be able to go some nice places; a bar is not my idea of a good dinner date.

And no, he's (thankfully) not tried to get romantic and frankly, I would head him off if he did. I'm not not at all physically attracted to him. While it's nice having someone interested in me, I'm just not desperate and never will be.

If he wants to remain friends, I'm certainly willing. But there is

Re: I vote YES!

Date: 2016-11-20 12:34 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile]
Going to a bar isn't my idea of a date either.
He begins to sound as though he might be asexual or even a late-blooming gay man?
It does seem as though you are right about finding someone else.
I do suggest a gentle ghostly withdrawal.


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