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Two thoughts...
Apr. 6th, 2006 10:18 am..while I'm waiting for the dryer.
Lots of folk seem to be in strife or pain right now. But it takes very little to either be a ray of sunshine or a thundercloud regardless of your circumstances. It's all a matter of attitude.
Sometimes my mouth (or fingers) get the better of my good judgment and I say things that would be better left unsaid but it bothers me to see folks going out of their way to make things harder for other folks when they could just leave well enough alone. How much better would this world be if people just tended their own business and left others to tend their own. And no, that was not a question, that was a statement.
Here's some general advice based on nearly 52 years of living; what I try to do when I'm in my better mind. When you open your mouth to speak, it is something that will build, support, encourage, help, be loving and kind; if so, say it. If not, keep it inside; it's probably better left unsaid.
Regarding drama; how much difference will this bit emotion make tomorrow...one year...five years...ten years from now. Will you remember it; will it change you life or someone elses? Think of it in a larger scheme of what is going on around you and in the world. Does it really matter that much? Better yet, when you speak of it (once again) around your friends are they rolling their eyes? If so, try dropping it and getting on with life. Try offering service to someone worse off than you. I suspect you'll find pretty quickly that your problems are a bit trivial next to soemone who is truly hurting and in need.
We have emotions built into us, that is a given. But whether we rule them or let them rule us will determine to a great extend what sort of daily life we will have. Trust me...I know whereof I speak here. I am the calm, logical, clear-headed step-by-step plannier in my family. If that statement just made you blanch, then you know me pretty well and can judge the rest of my family thereby.
Neither does avoidance help matters any. If there is a problem, argument or challenge; face it directly but nonconfrontationally. Say, "this is what I hear you saying, is this accurate?" rather than, "you make me feel...." or "I sense that you are feeling ...." rather than "you always...." just as suggestions to further communication rather then close it. Or my favorite of Bruce's, "help me to understand...." which is so very effective to starting a dialog rather than an argument.
I'm not perfect by any means, but I have seen and experienced a lot. And it always seems to me that there is so much unnecessary pain and hurt-making going on.
Can we try to be a little nicer to one another, both close to home and world-wide? Is that too much to ask?
Okay, dryer is done...back to work.
Lots of folk seem to be in strife or pain right now. But it takes very little to either be a ray of sunshine or a thundercloud regardless of your circumstances. It's all a matter of attitude.
Sometimes my mouth (or fingers) get the better of my good judgment and I say things that would be better left unsaid but it bothers me to see folks going out of their way to make things harder for other folks when they could just leave well enough alone. How much better would this world be if people just tended their own business and left others to tend their own. And no, that was not a question, that was a statement.
Here's some general advice based on nearly 52 years of living; what I try to do when I'm in my better mind. When you open your mouth to speak, it is something that will build, support, encourage, help, be loving and kind; if so, say it. If not, keep it inside; it's probably better left unsaid.
Regarding drama; how much difference will this bit emotion make tomorrow...one year...five years...ten years from now. Will you remember it; will it change you life or someone elses? Think of it in a larger scheme of what is going on around you and in the world. Does it really matter that much? Better yet, when you speak of it (once again) around your friends are they rolling their eyes? If so, try dropping it and getting on with life. Try offering service to someone worse off than you. I suspect you'll find pretty quickly that your problems are a bit trivial next to soemone who is truly hurting and in need.
We have emotions built into us, that is a given. But whether we rule them or let them rule us will determine to a great extend what sort of daily life we will have. Trust me...I know whereof I speak here. I am the calm, logical, clear-headed step-by-step plannier in my family. If that statement just made you blanch, then you know me pretty well and can judge the rest of my family thereby.
Neither does avoidance help matters any. If there is a problem, argument or challenge; face it directly but nonconfrontationally. Say, "this is what I hear you saying, is this accurate?" rather than, "you make me feel...." or "I sense that you are feeling ...." rather than "you always...." just as suggestions to further communication rather then close it. Or my favorite of Bruce's, "help me to understand...." which is so very effective to starting a dialog rather than an argument.
I'm not perfect by any means, but I have seen and experienced a lot. And it always seems to me that there is so much unnecessary pain and hurt-making going on.
Can we try to be a little nicer to one another, both close to home and world-wide? Is that too much to ask?
Okay, dryer is done...back to work.
